I have a confession to make. I am a sex blogger who isn’t well-acquainted with her G-spot. I don’t know where exactly it is, or what it likes, or even how best to find it. I have no idea what type of dildo will feel best or at what angle or what motion or what amount of pressure. I am a total G-spot n00b.
I have been embarrassed and ashamed about this for my entire sex-blogging career, unfairly comparing my own body’s experiences to those of other bloggers. I’ve worried and fussed over whether I should even be allowed to blog if I don’t know enough about my G-spot, or if I don’t enjoy dildos, or if I can’t orgasm from vaginal penetration.
I have decided to let go of those negative feelings. Being unfamiliar with my G-spot doesn’t mean I am unqualified to blog, nor unfit to talk about my experiences, nor does it mean I am masturbating “the wrong way” (mostly because there is no such thing as a “wrong way” to masturbate if it feels good).
Being unfamiliar with my G-spot does mean that I get to explore and play and document it all for you. In a new series on Squeaky Bedsprings, you get to read all about my exploratory G-spot learning process. Get ready for some feelings, frustrations, and other fun f-words. I’ll be talking about my relationship with my vagina, speculating about what my G-spot might enjoy, and recounting masturbation sessions to see what I may have learned from them.
My goal is to have no goal. That is, I want to enjoy these exploratory masturbation sessions without any pressure to produce an earth-shattering orgasm that has me squirting buckets. I don’t even know if I’ll ever squirt or have a G-spot orgasm, and I feel no pressure to do so. All bodies are different, so if orgasms and ejaculation happen, cool. If they don’t, cool. Perhaps I’ll find I don’t even like G-spot stimulation, and that’s okay too. I want to relax, try different things, and learn some neat-o stuff about my body.
To aid me on my quest for personal G-Spot knowledge, I’m also searching for some general G-spot knowledge. I’m currently reading Female Ejaculation & The G-Spot by Deborah Sundahl. The book discusses G-spot and ejaculation history, anatomy, and how to become familiar with your own body. I’m hoping this book will give me some guidance, but really in the end I’ll simply be listening to my body and experimenting.
Because I can be hard on myself, I have crafted a little letter to my G-spot, reminding myself to be gentle, loving, patient, and non-judgmental.
I promise that, no matter what your tastes turn out to be, I will love you no matter what. I will never be angry with you for honestly showing me your preferences. I will try my hardest not to impose my beliefs on what you should like. In fact, I will erase “should” from any language used about you. You are unique, beautiful, and deserve to be treated with the utmost kindness. I promise to care for you how you wish to be cared for.