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talk after sex

In a good book, the story has an introduction, rising action, climax, falling action, and a conclusion. Sex should be no different! Good sex should have the introduction of consent, the rising action of increased arousal and pleasure, and the climax of, well, climax. The classic film portrayal of two people in bed breathing heavily seems to be decent falling action, but what many people don’t see in their sex lives is a good conclusion. My favorite way to “conclude” sex is with a quality conversation about what just happened. For people who practice BDSM and kink, this can be considered a type of aftercare, but even vanilla-identifying folks can benefit from talking about their just-finished sexcapade. Communication with your sex-buddy in general will improve your romps by leaps and bounds, but the conversation can be even better when what just happened is still fresh in your minds. These tips are mostly tailored to those having recurring sex with someone, whether they are dating, friends with benefits, hooking up, or any other sort of sex-buddy. 

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Are you a kinky DIY lover? Do you like being restrained or putting someone else in restraints? Do you have $7? Then this tutorial might be for you! Simon and I were searching the market for a low priced set of restraint cuffs and other BDSM goods when we decided to just go to the hardware store to see what we could find and get creative with. On that trip we discovered a fantastic little cost effective way to tie someone up!   

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Let's talk about talking about sex

Type into google “how to be better in bed”, “how to make my partner(s) better in bed”, or even just “sex tips” and you’ll get an onslaught of articles. Some are great pieces from amazing educators, and some are crappy Cosmo articles like “10 ways to make your man give you the sex you deserve”. What do they all have in common? They’re all about communication. If you’re dissatisfied with your sex life, the number one way to remedy it is through communication with your partner(s).  However, talking about sex can be difficult if you’re new to it, shy, or afraid of hurting your partner(s)’s feelings, so I decided to put together this little guide of different styles of communication so you can discover what works best for you….. Read More Communication 101: How to Talk About Sex