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talk after sex

In a good book, the story has an introduction, rising action, climax, falling action, and a conclusion. Sex should be no different! Good sex should have the introduction of consent, the rising action of increased arousal and pleasure, and the climax of, well, climax. The classic film portrayal of two people in bed breathing heavily seems to be decent falling action, but what many people don’t see in their sex lives is a good conclusion. My favorite way to “conclude” sex is with a quality conversation about what just happened. For people who practice BDSM and kink, this can be considered a type of aftercare, but even vanilla-identifying folks can benefit from talking about their just-finished sexcapade. Communication with your sex-buddy in general will improve your romps by leaps and bounds, but the conversation can be even better when what just happened is still fresh in your minds. These tips are mostly tailored to those having recurring sex with someone, whether they are dating, friends with benefits, hooking up, or any other sort of sex-buddy. 

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Showerhead masturbationPeople discover masturbation in various ways. Some touch or rub their genitals against something and realize “hey this feels good!”, some copy what they see in porn, some hear about it from friends, and some like me have no idea masturbation exists until their new boyfriend’s fingers have been innocently jammed up their vagina in all the wrong ways and they’ve turned to the internet for guidance. May is national masturbation month, and after reading Emmeline Peaches’ story of masturbation, I decided to share my own story in honor of this celebration of self-pleasure. 

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How Do I Love Thee:On Comparing Relationships

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Erotic Fiction: Fishnet Queen

I Manage My Expectations

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Woman_on_Spanking_Bench_by_MaltesteLast Tuesday (4/26), The folks of @sextalktuesday held a discussion facilitated by @taylorjmace about kink and BDSM being used as a therapeutic recovery method for those dealing with trauma. Since I have no connection to trauma and only experience depression and anxiety, I felt my thoughts about my own relationship to BDSM would be better suited for a personal blog post rather than chiming into the conversation with something off-topic.

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*Trigger warning for depression and suicidal thoughts*

Birth Control and DepressionTwo years ago around this time of year I realized that my mental health issues were more than just seasonal blues. Since then, there have been millions of questions I’ve asked, blame I’ve thrown at myself and others, and choices made to better understand and work with my illness. Hormonal contraceptives are one suspected factor of my anxiety and depression that I simply cannot stop analyzing. These are my own complicated experiences with hormonal birth control, so please remember that everyone is unique, and because of that my experiences will vastly differ from those of someone else. This is not a guide or a “birth control: exposed!”, but a personal reflection. 

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Are you a kinky DIY lover? Do you like being restrained or putting someone else in restraints? Do you have $7? Then this tutorial might be for you! Simon and I were searching the market for a low priced set of restraint cuffs and other BDSM goods when we decided to just go to the hardware store to see what we could find and get creative with. On that trip we discovered a fantastic little cost effective way to tie someone up!   

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