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talk after sex

In a good book, the story has an introduction, rising action, climax, falling action, and a conclusion. Sex should be no different! Good sex should have the introduction of consent, the rising action of increased arousal and pleasure, and the climax of, well, climax. The classic film portrayal of two people in bed breathing heavily seems to be decent falling action, but what many people don’t see in their sex lives is a good conclusion. My favorite way to “conclude” sex is with a quality conversation about what just happened. For people who practice BDSM and kink, this can be considered a type of aftercare, but even vanilla-identifying folks can benefit from talking about their just-finished sexcapade. Communication with your sex-buddy in general will improve your romps by leaps and bounds, but the conversation can be even better when what just happened is still fresh in your minds. These tips are mostly tailored to those having recurring sex with someone, whether they are dating, friends with benefits, hooking up, or any other sort of sex-buddy. 

Read More Sexy Conclusions: 4 Things to Talk About After Sex

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In high school, I was the only one on my basketball team who failed to score all season. I played three soccer games in a row where I got hit in the face every single time. When I tried hockey, other people got awards like “Fastest Skater” or “Best Backwards”. I got “Smallest Head”. Sports and I were never compatible. That is, until now. Luckily, you don’t have to be athletic to enjoy the Tantus SportRead More The Tantus Sport: A Grand Slam

Butt Stuff Dildos

Showerhead masturbationPeople discover masturbation in various ways. Some touch or rub their genitals against something and realize “hey this feels good!”, some copy what they see in porn, some hear about it from friends, and some like me have no idea masturbation exists until their new boyfriend’s fingers have been innocently jammed up their vagina in all the wrong ways and they’ve turned to the internet for guidance. May is national masturbation month, and after reading Emmeline Peaches’ story of masturbation, I decided to share my own story in honor of this celebration of self-pleasure. 

Read More Showerheads and Jabby Fingers: My Masturbation Story

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Welcome to Elust #82

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Take Me

How Do I Love Thee:On Comparing Relationships

Asking all the questions…

 

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Erotic Fiction: Fishnet Queen

I Manage My Expectations

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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20160507_175958The Rocket was my 1.5th butt plug. I say 1.5th because technically the Fun Factory Bootie was my very first plug, but I tragically lost it after only two uses. I still have no idea where it managed to go. I looked everywhere, but I suspect it must have fallen out of my shower caddy on its way from being cleaned. Apologies to the poor soul who found my butt plug in a communal dorm bathroom. Oops.  Read More The Rocket Vibrating Plug

Butt Stuff

Woman_on_Spanking_Bench_by_MaltesteLast Tuesday (4/26), The folks of @sextalktuesday held a discussion facilitated by @taylorjmace about kink and BDSM being used as a therapeutic recovery method for those dealing with trauma. Since I have no connection to trauma and only experience depression and anxiety, I felt my thoughts about my own relationship to BDSM would be better suited for a personal blog post rather than chiming into the conversation with something off-topic.
Read More BDSM and Depression: Therapy or Self-Harm?

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Tantus Ryder

First let me share a bit of personal glory by saying that I was able to insert the Ryder from a cold start on the very first try. It’s a medium sized toy, measuring 3 (insertable) inches lengthwise with a width of 1.5 inches, and although it isn’t the largest thing I’ve put in my butt, it’s the largest thing I’ve put in my butt without a warm-up.

Read More The Tantus Ryder

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*Trigger warning for depression and suicidal thoughts*

Birth Control and DepressionTwo years ago around this time of year I realized that my mental health issues were more than just seasonal blues. Since then, there have been millions of questions I’ve asked, blame I’ve thrown at myself and others, and choices made to better understand and work with my illness. Hormonal contraceptives are one suspected factor of my anxiety and depression that I simply cannot stop analyzing. These are my own complicated experiences with hormonal birth control, so please remember that everyone is unique, and because of that my experiences will vastly differ from those of someone else. This is not a guide or a “birth control: exposed!”, but a personal reflection.  Read More Birth Control, Depression, and Self-Advocacy

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Are you a kinky DIY lover? Do you like being restrained or putting someone else in restraints? Do you have $7? Then this tutorial might be for you! Simon and I were searching the market for a low priced set of restraint cuffs and other BDSM goods when we decided to just go to the hardware store to see what we could find and get creative with. On that trip we discovered a fantastic little cost effective way to tie someone up!   

Read More DIY: Super Easy $7 Bondage Cuffs

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Let's talk about talking about sex

Type into google “how to be better in bed”, “how to make my partner(s) better in bed”, or even just “sex tips” and you’ll get an onslaught of articles. Some are great pieces from amazing educators, and some are crappy Cosmo articles like “10 ways to make your man give you the sex you deserve”. What do they all have in common? They’re all about communication. If you’re dissatisfied with your sex life, the number one way to remedy it is through communication with your partner(s).  However, talking about sex can be difficult if you’re new to it, shy, or afraid of hurting your partner(s)’s feelings, so I decided to put together this little guide of different styles of communication so you can discover what works best for you….. Read More Communication 101: How to Talk About Sex

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