People discover masturbation in various ways. Some touch or rub their genitals against something and realize “hey this feels good!”, some copy what they see in porn, some hear about it from friends, and some like me have no idea masturbation exists until their new boyfriend’s fingers have been innocently jammed up their vagina in all the wrong ways and they’ve turned to the internet for guidance. May is national masturbation month, and after reading Emmeline Peaches’ story of masturbation, I decided to share my own story in honor of this celebration of self-pleasure.
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The Rocket was my 1.5th butt plug. I say 1.5th because technically the Fun Factory Bootie was my very first plug, but I tragically lost it after only two uses. I still have no idea where it managed to go. I looked everywhere, but I suspect it must have fallen out of my shower caddy on its way from being cleaned. Apologies to the poor soul who found my butt plug in a communal dorm bathroom. Oops.
Last Tuesday (4/26), The folks of @sextalktuesday held a discussion facilitated by @taylorjmace about kink and BDSM being used as a therapeutic recovery method for those dealing with trauma. Since I have no connection to trauma and only experience depression and anxiety, I felt my thoughts about my own relationship to BDSM would be better suited for a personal blog post rather than chiming into the conversation with something off-topic.
First let me share a bit of personal glory by saying that I was able to insert the Ryder from a cold start on the very first try. It’s a medium sized toy, measuring 3 (insertable) inches lengthwise with a width of 1.5 inches, and although it isn’t the largest thing I’ve put in my butt, it’s the largest thing I’ve put in my butt without a warm-up.
*Trigger warning for depression and suicidal thoughts*
Two years ago around this time of year I realized that my mental health issues were more than just seasonal blues. Since then, there have been millions of questions I’ve asked, blame I’ve thrown at myself and others, and choices made to better understand and work with my illness. Hormonal contraceptives are one suspected factor of my anxiety and depression that I simply cannot stop analyzing. These are my own complicated experiences with hormonal birth control, so please remember that everyone is unique, and because of that my experiences will vastly differ from those of someone else. This is not a guide or a “birth control: exposed!”, but a personal reflection.
Are you a kinky DIY lover? Do you like being restrained or putting someone else in restraints? Do you have $7? Then this tutorial might be for you! Simon and I were searching the market for a low priced set of restraint cuffs and other BDSM goods when we decided to just go to the hardware store to see what we could find and get creative with. On that trip we discovered a fantastic little cost effective way to tie someone up!
As college students, Simon and I don’t exactly have a whole lot of money to spend on our sexual pursuits (If the school can spend our tuition on university logo-emblazoned m&ms, we should at least be getting more free condoms). Our low budget is what drew us to the Sportsheets New Comers Harness and Dildo Strap-On Kit when we decided to try pegging, and we can report we are mostly pleased, with a few reservations.
When I was looking for a new, high quality vibrator, I was still new to sex toys. I started doing research reading reviews and comparisons to find one that would suit my needs. I read all about rumbly vs. buzzy vibrations and pin-point vs. broad stimulation, patterns and vibration settings, internal and external. At the end of all the reading (but let’s be honest, there will never be an actual end) I just didn’t know what my vulva would enjoy. I purchased the Minna Limon because it looked like a great toy to experiment with and discover what my stimulation preferences might be. After months of owning this toy, although it has taught me quite a bit, I still remain on the fence.